Дары несовершенства. Как полюбить себя таким, какой ты есть

1. Brene Brown, Connections: A 12-Session Psychoeducational Shame-Resilience Curriculum (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2009); Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (New York: Penguin/Gotham Books, 2007); Brene Brown, “Shame Resilience Theory”, in Contemporary Human Behaviour Theory: A Critical Perspective for Social Work, rev. ed., ed. Susan P. Robbins, Pranab Chatterjee, and Edward R. Canda (Boston: Allyn and Bacon, 2007); Brene Brown, “Shame Resilience Theory: A Grounded Theory Study on Women and Shame”, Families in Society 87, no. 1 (2006): 43–52.

Введение

1. Stuart Brown with Christopher Vaughan, Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul (New York: Penguin Group, 2009).

Смелость, сочувствие и доверительные отношения

1. Я не уверена, где впервые появился термин «обычная храбрость», но я обнаружила его в статье Энни Роджерс о жен– щинах.

2. Pema Chodron, The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times (Boston: Shambhala Publications, 2001).

3. Там же.

4. Daniel Goleman, Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships (New York: Random House/Bantam Dell, 2006).

В поисках любви, чувства причастности и приятия себя

1. Bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, Harper Paperbacks, 2001).

2. Комментарий использован с разрешения автора.

3. Комментарий использован с разрешения автора.

Препятствия

1. Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (New York: Penguin/Gotham Books, 2007).

2. Наиболее исчерпывающий обзор современных исследований стыда и чувства вины вы можете найти в книге Shame and Guilt June Price Tangney and Ronda L. Dearing (New York: Guilford Press, 2002).

3. Linda M. Hartling, Wendy Rosen, Maureen Walker, and Judith V. Jordan, Shame and Humiliation: From Isolation to Relational Transformation, Work in Progress No. 88 (Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College, 2000).

Ступень № 1. Рискните быть собой

1. James R. Mahalik, Elisabeth B. Morray, Aimee Coonerty-Femiano, Larry H. Ludlow, Suzanne M. Slattery, and Andrew Smiler, “Development of the Conformity to Feminine Norms Inventory, ” Sex Roles 52, no. 7–8 (2005): 417–35.

2. James R. Mahalik, W. Tracy Talmadge, Benjamin D. Locke, and Ryan P. J. Scott, “Using the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory to Work with Men in a Clinical Setting, ” Journal of Clinical Psychology 61, no. 6 (2005): 661–74; James R. Mahalik, Benjamin D. Locke, Larry H. Ludlow, Matthew A. Diemer, Ryan P. J. Scott, Michael Gottfried, and Gary Freitas, “Development of the Conformity to MasculineNorms Inventory, ” Psychology of Men and Msculinity 4, no. 1 (2003): 3–25.

3. Блог Katherine Center, эссе для видео Defining a Movement, опубликовано 28 января 2010 г., http://katherinecenter.com/defining-a-movement/.

Ступень № 2. Сочувствуйте себе

1. Anna Quindlen, “Anna Quindlen’s Commencement Speech”, http://www.mtholyoke.edu/offices/comm/oped/Quindlen.shtml; Anna Quindlen, Being Perfect (NY: Random House, 2005).

2. Joe Scott, “The Effect of Perfectionism and Unconditional Self-Acceptance on Depression, ” Journal of Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behavior Therapy 25, no. 1 (2007): 35–64; Anna M. Brandone-Cone, Katrina Sturm, Melissa A. Lawson, D. Paul Robinson, and Roma Smith, “Perfectionism across Stages of Recovery from Eating Disorders, ” International Journal of Eating Disorders 43, no. 2 (2010): 139–48; Hyunjoo Park, P. Paul Heppner, and Dong-gwi Lee, “Maladaptive Coping and Self-Esteem as Mediators between Perfectionism and Psychological Distress, ” Personality and Individual Differences 48, no. 4 (March 2010): 469–74

3. Christopher K. Germer, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (New York: Guilford Press, 2009).

4. Kristin D. Neff, “Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself, ” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 85–101.

5. Kristin D. Neff, “The Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion, ”, Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–50.

6. Leonard Cohen, “Anthem, ” The Future, 1992, Columbia Records.

Ступень № 3. Не сдавайтесь

1. http://bonesigharts.com.