Не делиться – это нормально! И другие неправильные правила воспитания разумных и отзывчивых детей

Greenspan, Stanley. Building Healthy Minds: The Six Experiences That Create Intelligence and Emotional Growth in Babies and Young Children. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2000.

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. Kids, Parents and Power Struggles. New York: William Morrow Paperbacks, 2000.

Turecki, Stanley, with Sarah Wernick. Emotional Problems of Normal Children: How Parents Can Understand and Help. New York: Bantam, 1994.

Активная игра, грубая игра и мальчики

Carlson, Frances. Big Body Play: Why Boisterous, Vigorous and Very Physical Play Is Essential to Children’s Development and Learning. Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children, 2011.

DeBenedet, Anthony T., and Lawrence J. Cohen. The Art of Roughhousing: Good, Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It. Philadelphia: Quirk Books, 2011.

Gurian, Michael. The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men. New York: Tarcher, 1996.

Hodgins, Daniel. Boys: Changing the Classroom, Not the Child. Flushing, MI: Self-published, 2009.

Pollack, William. Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. New York: Random House, 1998.

Thompson, Michael, and Teresa H. Barker. It’s a Boy! Your Son’s Development from Birth to Age 18. New York: Ballantine Books, 2009.

Tyre, Peg. The Trouble with Boys: A Surprising Report Card on Our Sons, Their Problems at School, and What Parents and Educators Must Do. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2008.

Силовая игра и игра с оружием

Edmiston, Brian. Forming Ethical Identities in Early Childhood Play. New York: Routledge, 2008.

Jones, Gerard. Killing Monsters: Why Children Need Fantasy, Super Heroes and Make-Believe Violence. New York: Basic Books, 2002.

Katch, Jane. Under Deadman’s Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children’s Violent Play. Boston: Beacon Press, 2002.

Kindlon, Dan, and Michael Thompson. Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. New York: Ballantine Books, 2000.

Kirsh, Steven. Children, Adolescents and Media Violence: A Critical Look at the Research. 2nd ed. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications, 2011.

Levin, Diane E., and Nanc y Carlsson-Paige. The War Play Dilemma: What Every Parent and Teacher Needs to Know. 2nd ed. New York: Teachers College Press, 2005.

Похвала и нравственное развитие

Bronson, Po, and Ashley Merryman. Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children. New York: Twelve, 2009.

Coles, Robert. The Moral Life of Children. New York: Atlantic Monthly Press, 1986.

Damon, William. The Moral Child: Nurturing Children’s Natural Moral Growth. New York: Free Press, 1988.

Kohn, Alfi e. Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes. New York: Houghton Miffl in, 1999.

– Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. New York: Atria Books, 2005.

Riley, Sue Spayth. How to Generate Values in Young Children. Raleigh, NC: Boson Books, 2005.

Половое воспитание

Davis, Laura, and Janis Keyser. “Learning about Bodies.” Chap. 17 in Becoming the Parent Yo u Want to Be: A Sourcebook of Strategies for the First Five Years. New York: Three Rivers Press, 1997.

Rothbart, Betty et al. Right from the Start: Guidelines for Sexuality Issues, Birth to Five Years. New York: Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS), 1998 (free booklet online http://www.siecus.org/_data/global/images/RightFromTheStart.pdf).

Воспитание

Davis, Laura, and Janis Keyser. Becoming the Parent Yo u Want to Be: A Sourcebook of Strategies for the First Five Years. New York: Three Rivers Press, 1997.

Rogers, Fred. You Are Special: Words of Wisdom for All Ages from a Beloved Neighbor. New York: Penguin, 1995.

Благодарности

Я благодарю своего агента Джоэль Дельборго, которая сохраняла уверенность с самого первого дня и была убеждена, что мир готов к этой книге. Благодарю весь коллектив Tarcher/Penguin и Молли Бруйет и моего редактора Сару Кардер. Особенно хочу поблагодарить Сару: ее видение оформило эту книгу, превратив ее в «неправильную».