According to Semyonychev, horizontal connections between people represent a new type of relationship, which started developing rapidly in the 21st century. These are pretty well known things. Like, how do we negotiate with one another? How do we communicate non-violently? How do we understand each other’s emotions?
Soft skills are the skills that enable us to make horizontal and productive connections with each other.
Alexey Semyonychev adds to the discussion from the opposite side. He believes it is impossible to teach soft skills in the modern (traditional) school, because that school is based entirely on vertical connections: "Who needs soft skills when we have vertical connections, like those between the boss and his/her subordinates? The traditional school is a vertical system. Soft skills are out of the question there, because soft skills are based on respect for one another.”
According to the expert, the traditional school is a system where everything that can be killed in the soft skills system, gets killed. "What kind of communication can there be when the teacher is sitting up there talking down to you? The ability to choose — what does a student choose in school? He or she doesn’t choose anything. The ability to understand emotions — who’s going to teach them to understand emotions? A teacher who has 30 students in his class?"
The school’s grading system also does not take into account soft skills. Meanwhile, critical thinking is based on the child having to assess critically what is happening around them, that is, have his or her own opinion. "I’m afraid that’s even worse in school. Having your own opinion at school is outright a health hazard," the expert says.
The whole reality around the child in a regular school goes against many of the principles of soft skills. "Before introducing soft skills, we need to change the school first," Alexey Semyonychev sums up. After school, when people are older and no longer pressured by teachers and the school environment, they can finally start developing their soft skills with greater success.
Speaking of teaching soft skills in schools, experts touch upon the connection between education and upbringing. Yaroslava Kabanova points out that we often forget that a child spends a great amount of time at school, where he or she develops as a person. Education is about teaching as much as about upbringing. If we leave upbringing out of the curriculum, the child still receives it from the adults around him: teachers, tutors, everyone else at school.