The family in historical and psychological aspects

It is necessary for people to realize the social essence of the family, that is, that, being essentially a social phenomenon, it fully obeys the laws of public life. The fact is that the starting point of a person's readiness for marriage and family is an active understanding of the social significance of their actions, certain obligations to each other, responsibility for family and children, voluntary acceptance of the inevitable troubles in family life and restriction of personal freedom. Unfortunately, understanding this is not always typical of modern boys and girls, which is why the transition from informal, based solely on emotions, relationships of love and pre-marital courtship to formalized, fairly regulated and, most importantly, mandatory relationships of spouses as marital and family partners is often associated with significant, primarily purely psychological difficulties – a painful awareness of the novelty and complexity of the situation, a painful restructuring of one's own and someone else's behavior, as well as an unpleasant feeling of predestination and assignment.

The family is a historically specific system of relationships between spouses, parents and children; a small group whose members are interconnected by marriage or kinship, community of life and mutual moral responsibility, the social necessity of which is determined by the need of society for the physical and spiritual reproduction of the population and labor resources. And to understand that the historical specificity of the family lies in the fact that it changes over time, adapting to changing social relations (although it is at the same time one of the most stable public institutions); that the system of relationships is mentioned insofar as there are quite a lot of them in the family; that a small family group can be called in connection with that it completely falls under the definition of this initial element of society for any society, differing, however, in the nature of the association (very personal); and, finally, perhaps the most important thing is that the social need for the family is really there, because if it disappears, the very existence of humanity will be threatened.

Psychological issues of increasing the responsibility of young people to marriage and family life include increasing the social prestige of fatherhood and motherhood; increasing the psychological readiness of boys and girls for marriage; providing them with the necessary knowledge on hygiene and child care, preschool psychology, child psychology, psychohygenesis of sexual life, the main problems of relationships between spouses; highlighting the issues of the most important rational household management, efficient and economical organization of the family budget. Of course, all these tasks really need to be solved in order to achieve the readiness of young people for family life. Here are the most important areas for school pedagogy in preparing high school students for marriage: Active awareness of the social essence of the family and the resulting consequences for personal life. Education and self-education of the qualities necessary for life in marriage. Formation of adequate marital and family representations. Mastering a certain amount of knowledge on the psychology and sociology of marriage and family.

In this regard, explaining the psychological essence of the family, it is necessary to constantly draw their attention to the enduring social significance of the two main functions of the family – reproductive and educational (physical and spiritual reproduction of the population), tirelessly emphasizing that only in the family they are able to be performed fully and naturally. Boys and girls should be quite clearly aware of the difficult truth, which is fully understood only in mature years – that the marital and family definition is a conscious self-restraint.

The need to see oneself self-realized, loved and happy in the future is natural and natural for everyone on the threshold of adulthood, but any dream is useful and achievable only in cases when it is supported by a real action plan that includes, in addition to the desired goals, also ways and means of achieving them.

However, this very abstract knowledge alone will not be enough to realize responsibility for the family if boys and girls do not learn the socio-psychological meaning behind the laws of public life and the mechanisms of regulation of people's social behavior that follow from it. This meaning lies in the need to perform – in a fairly definite, and most importantly, coordinated with others way – some intra—family functions, whose name is legion (this is a lot of household chores and problems associated with the maintenance of family life). After all, the very existence of a society is ultimately determined by how accurately and fully its constituent people perform the tasks they serve throughout their lives.