План Б: Как пережить несчастье, собраться с силами и снова ощутить радость жизни

У пар, которые смеются вместе: John Mordechai Gottman and Robert Wayne Levenson, "The Timing of Divorce: Predicting When a Couple Will Divorce over a 14-Year Period," Journal of Marriage and Family 62 (2000): 737–45.

юмор понижает частоту сердечных сокращений: Michelle Gayle Newman and Arthur A. Stone, "Does Humor Moderate the Effects of Experimentally-Induced Stress?" Annals of Behavioral Medicine 18 (1996): 101–9.

«если вы можете сделать их нелепыми»: Mel Brooks, цит. по: Forrest Wickman, "Watch the New Documentary About Mel Brooks," Slate, May 28, 2013: www.slate.com/blogs/browbeat/2013/05/28/_mel_brooks_make_a_noise_the_pbs_american_masters_documentary_is_now_available.html.

Шутки – обычное дело на похоронах: Blake E. Ashforth and Glen E. Kreiner, " 'How Can You Do It?' Dirty Work and the Challenge of Constructing a Positive Identity," Academy of Management Review 24 (1999): 413–34.

«Он вовсе не потерялся»: "Tragicomedia with Comic Janice Messitte on Being a Newly Wedded Widow," Art for Your Sake, March 20, 2014: http://artforyoursake.com/tragicomedia-with-comic-janice-messitte-on-being-a-newly-wedded-widow/.

«Смерть – это конец жизни»: Robert Woodruff Anderson, I Never Sang for My Father (New York: Random House, 1968).

когда люди влюбляются: Anita L. Vangelisti and Daniel Perlman, eds., The Cambridge Handbook of Personal Relationships (New York: Cambridge University Press, 2006).

сто тридцать пар новобрачных пригласили: John M. Gottman, James Coan, Sybil Carrere, and Catherine Swanson, "Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newlywed Interactions," Journal of Marriage and Family 60 (1998): 5–22; John Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2000).

определяет стойкие отношения: Jane E. Dutton and Emily Heaphy, "The Power of High-Quality Connections," in Positive Organizational Scholarship: Foundations of a New Discipline, ed. Kim S. Cameron, Jane E. Dutton, and Robert E. Quinn (San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 2003).

пары нередко замечают, что огонек угас: Arthur Aron, Christina C. Norman, Elaine N. Aron, et al., "Couples' Shared Participation in Novel and Arousing Activities and Experienced Relationship Quality," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 78 (2000): 273–84.

В парах, чей брак сохранился: John M. Gottman, Janice Driver, and Amber Tabares, "Repair During Marital Conflict in Newlyweds: How Couples Move from Attack-Defend to Collaboration," Journal of Family Psychotherapy 26 (2015): 85–108.

Всего трех записей, на каждую из которых отводилось семь минут: Eli J. Finkel, Erica B. Slotter, Laura B. Luchies, et al., "A Brief Intervention to Promote Conflict Reappraisal Preserves Marital Quality over Time," Psychological Science 24 (2013): 1595–601.

«Я не буду шокировать вас»: Allen Rucker, The Best Seat in the House: How I Woke Up One Tuesday and Was Paralyzed for Life (New York: Harper-Collins, 2007).

Иллюстрации

1. «Нет, это слон»: J. B. Handelsman, The New Yorker Collection / The Cartoon Bank.

2. Карточки эмпатии использованы с разрешения Emily McDowell Studio.

3. «Странно, я здесь, в комнате, но никто этого не признает»: Leo Cullum, The New Yorker Collection / The Cartoon Bank.

4. «Джошуа и Кейла», Тимоти Чамберс.

5. Доска сожалений: "We Asked People to Tell Us Their Biggest Regrets – But What They All Had in Common Was Heartbreaking," A Plus, January 22, 2016: http://aplus.com/a/clean-slate-blackboard-experiment.