Спасать или спасаться? Как избавитьcя от желания постоянно опекать других и начать думать о себе

6. Terence T. Gorski and Merlene Miller, “Co-Alcoholic Relapse: Family Factors and Warning Signs,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue, 78.

7. Earnie Larsen; Subby, “Inside the Chemically Dependent Marriage.”

8. Subby and Friel, “Co-Dependency.”

9. Charles L. Whitfield, “Co-Dependency: An Emerging Problem Among Professionals,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue, 53; Joseph L. Kellerman, The Family and Alcoholism: A Move from Pathology to Process (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1984).

10. Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones (New York: Funk and Wagnalls, 1976); Theodore I. Rubin with Eleanor Rubin, Compassion and Self-Hate: An Alternative to Despair (New York: David McKay Company, 1975).

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1. Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983), 162.

2. Dennis Wholey, The Courage to Change (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1984), 207.

3. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 55.

4. Там же, стр. 53.

5. Robert Subby and John Friel, “Co-Dependency: A Paradoxical Dependency,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 32.

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1. Эта цитата из раздаточного материала под заглавием «Отстранение», содержащего коллекцию высказываний анонимных участников Ал-Анон.

2. Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones (New York: Funk and Wagnalls, 1976), 89.

3. Al-Anon Family Groups, One Day at a Time in Al-Anon (New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1976).

4. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 47.

5. Terence Williams, Free to Care: Therapy for the Whole Family (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1975).

6. Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair.

7. Carolyn W., Detaching with Love (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1984), 5.

8. Lois Walfrid Johnson, Either Way, I Win: A Guide to Growth in the Power of Prayer (Minneapolis: Augsburg, 1979).

9. Эрни Ларсен проводит похожее упражнение на медитацию в конце своих семинаров.

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1. William Backus and Marie Chapian, Telling Yourself the Truth (Minneapolis: Bethany Fellowship, 1980).

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1. Eda LeShan, “Beware the Helpless,” Woman’s Day, 26 April 1983.

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1. Claude M. Steiner, Scripts People Live (New York: Grove Press, 1974).

2. Там же; Claude M. Steiner, Games Alcoholics Play (New York: Grove Press, 1971) и Claude M. Steiner, What Do You Say After You Say Hello? (New York: Grove Press, 1972).

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1. Penelope Russianoff, Why Do I Think I’m Nothing Without a Man? (New York: Bantam Books, 1982); Theodore I. Rubin with Eleanor Rubin, Compassion and Self-Hate; An Alternative to Despair (New York: David McKay Company, 1975), 278.

2. Janet Geringer Woititz, “Co-Dependency: The Insidious Invader of Intimacy,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 56.

3. Rubin, Compassion, 196.

4. Colette Dowling, The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence (New York: Pocket Books, 1981).

5. Там же, стр. 152–153

6. Там же.

7. Russianoff, Why Do I Think I’m Nothing.

8. Dowling, The Cinderella Complex, 22.

9. Kathy Capell-Sowder, “On Being Addicted to the Addict: Co-Dependent Relationships,” in Co-Dependency, 23. См. тж. Stanton Peele and Archie Brodsky, Love and Addiction (New York: New American Library, 1975).

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1. Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983), 53.

2. Theodore I. Rubin with Eleanor Rubin, Compassion and Self-Hate: An Alternative to Despair (New York: David McKay Company, 1975), 65.

3. Там же.

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