Спасать или спасаться? Как избавитьcя от желания постоянно опекать других и начать думать о себе

3. Там же, стр. 164.

4. Dennis Wholey, The Courage to Change (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1984), 39.

Глава 17

1. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol. 1, 77–78.

2. Там же, стр. 76.

3. John Powell, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? (Allen, TX: Argus Communications, 1969), 12.

4. Там же, стр. 8.

5. Jean Baer, How to Be an Assertive (Not Aggressive) Woman in Life, in Love, and on the Job (New York: New American Library, 1976).

Глава 18

1. Al-Anon Family Groups, Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1981), 131.

2. Jael Greenleaf, “Co-Alcoholic/Para-Alcoholic: Who’s Who and What’s the Difference?” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 15.

3. George E. Vaillant, The Natural History of Alcoholism (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1983).

4. Уоррен В. рассказал эту историю в Миннеаполисе 23 августа 1985 года, позаимствовав ее у оратора Клэнси Имислунда.

5. Al-Anon Family Groups, Al-Anon: Is It for You? (New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1983). Reprinted by permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

6. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 49–52.

Глава 19

1. Перефразированная цитата с поздравительной открытки и плаката, продававшихся сто лет назад; автор неизвестен.

2. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol. 2, 52.

3. Penelope Russianoff, Why Do I Think I’m Nothing Without a Man? (New York: Bantam Books, 1982).

4. Kathy Capell-Sowder, “On Being Addicted to the Addict: Co-Dependent Relationships,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 20–21.

5. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 30–31.

6. Идеи, обсуждаемые в этом разделе, почерпнуты из нескольких статей из сборника Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984): Janet Geringer Woititz, “The Co-Dependent Spouse: What Happens to You When Your Husband Is an Alcoholic”; Gerald Shulman, “Sexuality and Recovery: Impact on the Recovering Couple”; Marilyn Mason, “Bodies and Beings: Sexuality Issues During Recovery for the Dependent and Co-Dependent”; and Janet Geringer Woititz, “Co-Dependency: The Insidious Invader of Intimacy.”

Глава 20

1. Abraham H. Maslow, ed., Motivation and Personality, 2d ed. (New York: Harper & Row, 1970); Benjamin Wolman, ed., International Encyclopedia of Psychiatry, Psychology, Psychoanalysis, & Neurology (New York: Aesculapius Publishers, 1977), vol. 7, 32–33.

2. Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983), 162.

3. Janet Geringer Woititz, “Co-Dependency: The Insidious Invader of Intimacy,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 59.

Эпилог

1. Michael Schumacher, “Sharing the Laughter with Garrison Keillor,” Writer’s Digest (January 1986), 33.

Библиография

Книги

1. Alcoholics Anonymous World Services. Alcoholics Anonymous (“The Big Book”), 3d ed. New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 1976.

2. Al-Anon Family Groups.

• Al-Anon: Is It for You? New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1983.

• Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1981.

• Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism. New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1977.

• One Day at a Time in Al-Anon. New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1974.

• The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage. New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1971.

3. Anderson, Donald L. Better Than Blessed. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1981.

4. Backus, William, and Marie Chapian. Telling Yourself the Truth. Minneapolis: Bethany Fellowship, 1980.