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1. Theodore I. Rubin with Eleanor Rubin, Compassion and Self-Hate: An Alternative to Despair (New York: David McKay Company, 1975); Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983).

2. Robert Subby and John Friel, “Co-Dependency: A Paradoxical Dependency,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 40.

3. Rubin, Compassion.

4. Там же.

5. Branden, Honoring the Self.

6. Там же, стр. 76.

7. Wayne W. Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones (New York: Funk and Wagnalls, 1976).

8. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol.1, xxi.

9. Branden, Honoring the Self, 1–4.

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1. Joseph L. Kellerman, A Guide for the Family of the Alcoholic (New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1984), 8–9.

2. Janet Geringer Woititz, “Co-Dependency: The Insidious Invader of Intimacy,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 55.

3. Там же, стр. 59.

4. Harold A. Swift and Terence Williams, Recovery for the Whole Family (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1975).

5. Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983), 62–65.

6. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, On Death and Dying (New York: MacMillan Publishing, 1969).

7. Melody Beattie, Denial (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1986).

8. Claudia L. Jewett, Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss (Harvard, MA: The Harvard Common Press, 1982), 29.

9. Там же, стр. 23, 29.

10. John Powell, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? (Allen, TX: Argus Communications, 1969), 116–17.

11. Kübler-Ross, On Death and Dying, 99–100.

12. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 80.

13. Donald L. Anderson, Better Than Blessed (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1981), 11.

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1. John Powell, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? (Allen, TX: Argus Communications, 1969), 155.

2. Jael Greenleaf, “Co-Alcoholic/Para-Alcoholic: Who’s Who and What’s the Difference?” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 9.

3. Scott Egleston; Powell, Why Am I Afraid; Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol. 1.

4. Nathaniel Branden, Honoring the Self: Personal Integrity and the Heroic Potentials of Human Nature (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1983).

5. Powell, Why Am I Afraid.

6. Там же.

7. Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper, A New Guide to Rational Living (Hollywood, CA: Wilshire Book, 1975); William Backus and Marie Chapian, Telling Yourself the Truth (Minneapolis: Bethany Fellowship, 1980).

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1. Janet Geringer Woititz, “The Co-Dependent Spouse: What Happens to You When Your Husband Is an Alcoholic,” in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 90.

2. Gayle Rosellini and Mark Worden, Of Course You’re Angry (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986).

3. К Ефесянам, 4:26.

4. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol.1; Rosellini and Worden, Of Course You’re Angry; and Scott Egleston.

5. Frederick S. Perls, Gestalt Therapy Verbatim (New York: Bantam Books, 1969).

6. Claude M. Steiner, Scripts People Live (New York: Grove Press, 1979).

7. Rosellini and Worden, Of Course You’re Angry.

8. Woititz, “The Co-Dependent Spouse,” 83.

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1. 2-е Тимофею, 1:7.

2. Aron Kahn, “Indecision Decidedly in Vogue,” St. Paul Pioneer Press and Dispatch (1 April 1986, sec. C).

3. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol. 1.

4. Перифраз материала из издания Alcoholics Anonymous, 3d ed. “The Big Book” (New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, 1976).

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1. David J. Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking Big (New York: Cornerstone Library, 1959), 162–63.

1. Там же, стр. 163–164.