Все из-за меня (но это не так). Правда о перфекционизме, несовершенстве и силе уязвимости

1.  «…все больше исследователей и практиков изучают роль стыда в возникновении проблем, связанных с психическим здоровьем населения…»

Отношения между стыдом и различными проблемами изучаются в следующих книгах и статьях:

Balcom, D., Lee, R., and Tager, J. (1995). The systematic treatment of shame in couples. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 21, 55–65.

Dearing, R., Stuewig, J., and Tangney, J . (2005). On the importance of distinguishing shame from guilt: Relations to problematic alcohol and drug use. Addictive Behaviors, 30, 1392–1404.

Ferguson, T. J., Eyre, H. L., and Ashbaker , M. (2000). Unwanted identities: A key variable in shame-anger links and gender differences in shame. Sex Roles, 42, 133–157.

Hartling, L., Rosen, W., Walker, M., and Jordan, J. (2000). Shame and humiliation: From isolation to relational transformation (Work in Progress No. 88). Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College.

Jordan, J. (1989). Relational development: Therapeutic implications of empathy and shame (Work in Progress No. 39). Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College.

Lester, D . (1997). The role of shame in suicide. Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior, 27, 352–361.

Lewis, H. B . (1971). Shame and guilt in neurosis. New York: International Universities Press.

Mason, M . (1991). Women and shame: Kin and culture. In C. Bepko (ed.), Feminism and addiction (p. 175–194). Binghamton, NY: Haworth.

Nathanson, D . (1997). Affect theory and the compass of shame. In M. Lansky and A. Morrison (Eds.), The widening scope of shame. Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic.

Sabatino, C. (1999). Men facing their vulnerabilities: Group processes for men who have sexually offended. Journal of Men’s Studies, 8, 83–90.

Scheff, T. (2000). Shame and the social bond: A sociological theory. Sociological Theory, 18, 84–99.

Scheff, T. (2003). Shame in self and society. Symbolic Interaction, 26, 239–262.

Talbot, N. (1995). Unearthing shame is the supervisory experience. American Journal of Psychotherapy, 49, 338–349.

Tangney, J. P. (1992). Situational determinants of shame and guilt in young adulthood. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 18, 199–206.

Tangney, J. P., and Dearing, R. (2002). Shame and guilt. New York: Guilford.

2. «Говорить от сердца – вот что я понимаю под “повседневной храбростью”. Не знаю точно, кто придумал это словосочетание, но я впервые встретила его в статье исследователя Энни Роджерс о женщинах и девочках».

Rogers, A. G. (1993). Voice, play, and a practice of ordinary courage in girls’ and women’s lives. Harvard Educational Review, 63, 265–294.