Ты не слушаешь. Что мы упускаем, разучившись слушать, и как это исправить

43 Никакая психологическая концепция не описывает это лучше, чем теория привязанности – Inge Bretheron, “The Origins of Attachment Theory: John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth,” Developmental Psychology 28, no. 5 (1992): 759–775, http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/0012–1649.28.5.759; Mary D. Salter Ainsworth, Mary C. Blehar, Everett Waters, and Sally N. Wall, Patterns of Attachment: A Psychological Study of the Strange Situation (New York: Psychology Press, 2015); John Bowlby, A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development (New York: Basic Books, 1988); Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, Bert Powell, and Christine M. Benton, Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child’s Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore (New York: Guilford Press, 2017); Howard Steele and Miriam Steele, Handbook of Attachment– Based Interventions (New York: Guilford Press, 2017); Jude Cassidy, Handbook of Attachment: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications, 3rd ed. (New York: Guilford Press, 2018); Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find– And Keep– Love (New York: Tarcher Perigee, 2011).

44 …подтверждена несколькими опубликованными исследованиями – Teresa Lind, Kristin Bernard, Emily Ross, and Mary Dozier, “Intervention Effects on Negative Affect of CPSReferred Children: Results of a Randomized Clinical Trial,” Child Abuse & Neglect 38, no.9 (2014): 1459–1467, https://doi. org/10.1016/j. chiabu. 2014.04.004; Anne P. Murphy, Howard Steele, Jordan Bate, Adella Nikitiades, Brooke Allman, Karen A. Bonuck, Paul Meissner, and Miriam Steele, “Group Attachment– Based Intervention: Trauma– Informed Care for Families with Adverse Childhood Experiences,” Family and Community Health 38, no. 3 (2015): 268–279, https://doi. org/10.1097/FCH. 0000000000000074; Kristin Bernard, Mary Dozier, Johanna Bick, Erin Lewis–Morrarty, Oliver Lindhiem, and Elizabeth Carlson, “Enhancing Attachment Organization Among Maltreated Children: Results of a Randomized Clinical Trial,” Child Development 83, no. 2 (2012): 623–636, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467–8624. 2011. 01712.x.

45 Причина одиночества и отчужденности от общества… – Lesley Caldwell and Helen Taylor Robinson, eds., The Collected Works of D. W. Winnicott, vol. 6 (New York: Oxford University Press, 2017), 529.

46 …ласка без прикосновения – Amir Amedi, Gilad Jacobson, Talma Hendler, Rafael Malach, and Ehud Zohary, “Convergence of Visual and Tactile Shape Processing in the Human Lateral Occipital Complex,” Cerebral Cortex 12, no. 11 (2002): 1202–1212, https://doi.org/10.1093/cercor/12.11.1202; Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages (Chicago, IL: Northfield Publishing, 1992), 107–118; Lisbeth Lipari, Listening, Thinking, Being: Toward an Ethics of Attunement (University Park, PA: Pennsylvania State University Press, 2014), 9.

Глава 3. Слушайте любопытство: что мы можем узнать у малышей

47 Перелистайте трехтомную Международную энциклопедию межличностной коммуникации – Charles R. Berger and Michael E. Roloff, eds., The International Encyclopedia of Interpersonal Communication (Malden, MA: Wiley Blackwell, 2016), https://onlinelibrary.wiley. com/browse/book/10.1002 / 9781118540190 / title ? pageSize = 20&startPage = &alphabetRange = l. won’t even find listening Mark Knapp and John Daly, eds., The SAGE Handbook of Interpersonal Communication, 4th ed. (Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage, 2011), https://us. sagepub. com/en–us/nam/the–sage–handbook–of–interpersonal–communication/book234032.